I musta missed this thread the first time around. Yeah, I have a CCW permit (& live in Kalifornia
but so do about 10,000 other people in my county). And yes, I carry 99% of the time (never on school grounds or courthouse sites). I don't take my garbage out or go to the mailbox without my Kahr PM9 (superlight, micro 9mm) or at times, my SigP239 in .40S&W. Around here, there are a LOT of two-legged coyotes & a pack of'em can pull up between me & my house (and family) in a heartbeat when I walk out to the street. If I won't go to the mailbox unarmed, you can bet the first peice of equipment I reach for when I go out by myself swinging a $1,000 detector is my IWB holster. I definitely don't go out looking for trouble. If there are questionable individuals at a site when I arrive, I don't stop. If they arrive after I do, I leave. Packing really shouldn't make you feel safe, just more likely to survive if you get boxed into a corner. Never go anywhere or do anything *with* your gun that you wouldn't *without* it.
Funny, during the many years before I got my permit I felt that I had to "posture" when I percieved a potential threat (whether I was on foot or in a vehicle). Fear is what caused that reaction, as it does in most animals. Now, most of that fear has been replaced by caution and concern, knowing that if it came down to an actual life-threatening confrontation I have the means to decisively stop the threat and to protect my family from undue harm. The absence of a high level of fear makes logical thought processes work a LOT better under stress; I am now a lot more likely to avoid a threat then to confront it.
I might offend a few people now, but I'm going to say it anyway. You NEED some level of formal training if you carry a firearm for personal protection. I started shooting before I was 8 years old, & I was a pretty good shot. Over the years, I amassed quite a variety of firearms, practicing with each until I could perform well with any of them. Within any group of shooters, I was *always* one of the best shots, if not *the* best. I took my first 4-Day Defensive Handgun training course about 10 years ago. On the morning of the first day, I learned more then I could have imagined there was to know & wondered how I had survived as long as I had without any training. By the end of the second day, my new level of skill completely blew me away. By the end of the fourth day, I was a smoking hot machine that could deliver 2 shots to Center Of Mass, from concealment at 7 yards in a blazing 1.1 seconds. I went on to take about 20 more such courses, in a variety of weapons systems. I finished out the Handgun Combat Masters Prep course capable of getting a shot off to COM from concealment at contact range in 0.78 seconds & breaking the 1-second barrier at 5-7 yards. You need not persue training to such a degree as I have (& continue to), but *some* training, *any* training is FAR better then none at all. Most any shooting range has qualified self defense instructors that practically volunteer their services. 2-3 hours with such an individual really can mean the difference between life & death, should you ever have to use your firearm for protection. We use the goal of "two shots to center of mass from concealment in 1.5 seconds" in our 4-day defensive handgun classes. The reason being, 1.5 seconds is how long it takes an attacker 21 feet away from you to burst forward and make contact with you, whether with a knife, stick, or their bare hands. Most first time students upon arrival can get their weapon out of the holster & fire a shot in 3-5 seconds. Add that extra 1.5 to 3.5 seconds to your attacker's distance traveled at full speed & you can see that he could be a LONG way from you, & STILL get to you before you could stop him. Once he is upon you & your weapon is half out of the holster, YOU will most likely be the one shot in the confrontation. Proper training gives you Skill and Confidence at arms. Without the training, you merely have confidence, and it is NOT enough.
Ok, blast me now