I respect people who have earned it. My brother was a policeman and always told me say as little as possible and don't let them fool you into saying something that can be deemed suspicious, they know all the tricks. I have given my name before but never my drivers lic. unless I was driving. once while I was driving home from selling a car I was pulled over for speeding, when I got my wallet out and he saw all the 100$ bills the first thing he mentioned was drug money and the fact my baseball bat was in the back with my cleats and glove was enough probable cause for him to pull me out of the car.They tore my car apart all the while asking me if I had just sold my drugs and had me stand there while they destroyed my car, tossing litter and smashing the 1/2 eaten McDonalds meal into the carpet. They lkept at it until the drug dog got there and they found nothing but tried like crazy to get me to say something incriminating. almost 1 hour sitting there and I got a warning for a tailight out that never needed fixed. never any mention of the supposed speeding, which I may have been.As for the OP , I think you did the right thing, I would have asked how her kids could have gotten so close to me if she was watching them. the mother was the criminal in this case, what would have happened if it was a child molester there and not you ?
Yea, I feel you. I owned a construction company and usually carried a couple thousand petty cash out of town. I was pulling a trailer out of state, it got a flat and due to mud couldn't use my jack. I actually called the police for help, but they said they would only come if I was a traffic hazard, I told them I was...I really was.
The cop got there, called a tow truck, he was able to change tire with better jack. I paid the guy and gave him a 100 dollar tip. The cop saw my cash, started asking about it. Being out of town several states, he asked lots of questions, which I answered. I knew he thought I was running drugs. He asked to search my vehicle. I'd been driving for 10 hours, tired and told him I knew what he thought, but I was tired and wanted to go.
I also had a 12 guage exposed in the back seat, perfectly legal, he aksed what for, I told him the truth...protection. Still, he said my cash and gun were supicious, so I let him look in the front, not finding anything, he called the dogs. I was taking prescribed Methadone at the time due to back operation and told him so and showed a legal prescription to him. The dog came, got a hit....knew it was my meds. So for an hour they searched my vehicle, pulled my suitcases out, went through all my stuff, still mildly raining....all got wet and muddy.
One cop said if I didn't show them my stash, my vehicle and trailer would be towed and searched. Can't show them what you don't have. I asked for a Super and he was there, the dog hit on my meds out of the truck as well. They finally let me go, trailer trashed, truck trashed, all my stuff wet, hours wasted. Funny, it was I who called them. Had I not opened my wallet and exposed my cash, I'm sure I would've been on my way. I wasn't aware a wallet filled with cash and legal firearm is reasonable suspicion, but cops sure see it that way.
So I now always reserve my right not to be ID'ed or searched following the law.