Broke up with girlfriend of 2 years and 3 months

[Crumble]

In my opinion, the fact that she clung to you really fast is a big red flag, right when I read that I knew she cheated... You want a woman that makes you work for her... because she will do the same to any guy that tries to steal her from you... most college guys skip those kind of girls and go for the... easy ones. You're in college, there are females everywhere you look, I would not get back with that girl if I were you.

Just pretend she doesn't exist.

[Bonesquat]

Originally Posted by Hammer Dog

Buddy, take it from some one who has just gone through a divorce. Leave her be. If she spent the night at some other guy's house she will do it again, and again, and again. Let her go be with who ever she wants to and you go find another one. And do not get tied down, enjoy the shopping experience.

Well put, if she did that, forget her. There's many others out there that won't screw you over. My gf of over 2 years wouldn't do that to me. Obviously you're dealing with the immature psycho chick of our generation. They're not worth your time.

Get out and metal detect. All will be fine and just cease contact with her. Finding a silver coin will make everything ok. When I got laid off a year ago, I went beeping and found a silver coin and I only did because I got laid off.

You'll be ok.

[OZARKS]

CONGRATS!!!

[PhotoRob06]

Originally Posted by xlogit3k

What are your thoughts?

Btw I'm going detecting this weekend, I'm home from school.

I was wondering why you hadn't been posting as much...

From my experience, college is a massive re-organization of lifestyle... We're made to choose our classes, our friends, the direction we want to go in life, which makes it the worst possible time to maintain a relationship. It's when we discover those directions may not bee the same.

For whatever reasons behind making her decision, you'll have to do the same thing since she's left you with no choice. She may come to regret that decision, but it's really not your problem anymore.

Now is the perfect time IMO, to look at where you are and re-organize your life the way you see fit. You have to look at it as an opportunity rather than a problem, because the more time you spend thinking about her, the more time wasted in arranging your life the way you want it. She doesn't deserve to have you thinking about her anyway.

[Surf Master]

Do yourself a favor,let it go,if it was ment to be,she will be back,remember this you are in college,she is in college,both of you are in different colleges,open season,she will get hit on,go out with other men,put you on the back burner,if you let her,set her free,as you are free nowdon't let it shock you,move on,set her free,you might find out in the future she wasn't the girl for you,go out with other woman,young man,or take some time out for yourself,hey i am 51,have a girlfriend now for 3 years,if it was ment to be,she would still be their for you,sad ,but true,Earl

[xlt in MD]

sorry but find some one new. Its over. dont beat yourself up over it while she is out having a good time. go out and have some fun.

[gemmy1]

Originally Posted by Mike1961

As for the personality disorder, all women have a personality disorder (don't tell Gemmy I said that).

Moi? Personality Disorder??? Dead Man Walking

[Mike1961]

Originally Posted by gemmy1

Moi? Personality Disorder??? Dead Man Walking

Someone told!

Turtlefoot, I have some old shells you can have when I'm gone.

[microhike]

You will be fine, life goes on, time heals old wounds...We have all been there at least once.

I understand your pain, and you will be fine...someone generally gets hurt when a relationship ends, so just think of her as a place holder until your true love comes along.

Now keep on with your adventure called "Life"!

[Rudy]

There are other women out there. One of them could turn out to be your soul mate.

I know this song is kinda sappy but...

[dogpound]

hello.....your in college....now go date her roommate ...and all her friends

[Greek2Me]

I had a relationship like that once. I was out detecting and got this lovely silver quarter signal! I just knew it was a silver quarter and I was so giddy! After digging for 30 minutes and 6 inches down there she was!!! A WASHER!!! It sure was fun while it lasted, but eventually the true target showed its ugly face. Sometimes relationships are the same way. Just keep on searching just like we do when detecting. Persistence does pay off!

G2M

[Bigpoppa]

Originally Posted by dogpound

hello.....your in college....now go date her roommate ...and all her friends

I like your style


What else can you expect from the young girls today ??

Look at the shows they watch: Bad Girls Club Jersey Shore The Real Life The Girls Next Door etc.. etc... There are so many of that genre that it's just pathetic..

TV now glamorizes sleeping around and just all around bad behavior

Most of the girls today behave worse than my buddy's and I did in college...Kinda makes me sad THAT I'M NOT 20 ANYMORE !!!

Don't hate the playa..Hate the game

YOUR IN COLLEGE...GO OUT & HAVE FUN !!!

As soon as you find that new squeeze all will be better...I PROMISE !!!

[CTCurt]

She met someone else,and is moving on. Time for you to do the same. I know it sucks at first, but when you start dating someone new, you'll be a new person. Good luck my friend......Curt

[Spm673 (The Jersey Digger)]

Just as many others have said on here, this is what happens at college. College is a completely different ballgame than high school. She goes to party, gets a little tipsy and BAM she is makin out with another dude. It's just the way things are. At that age being tied down for 2+ years is tough. She wants to experience the rest of the world and so should you.Yeah yeah there is that whole other fish in the sea stuff. It hurts but you will move on. I think if her roomate is coming to "hang out" with you, she might have other plans as someone else posted. Is the roomate cute?

On a side note it took me up until 35 to marry the one I wanted. I was single the rest of the time before that ( meaning not married)...

Lastly the one other user was right. After you go out into the real world, you will see how much you miss the "ease" of college life...Oh the fun days...<sigh>

[cmbtvet]

Originally Posted by xlogit3k

Apparently after Sunday, she spent Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday with a different guy at his place. Everything came so suddenly and I'm still not informed on the details.

I see your red flag and have highlighted it for you.

It always seems to come suddenly but there were signs, you just missed them. You don't want details. Don't try to "figure out" what happened. Just let it go and move on.

There has been lots of great advice given here from people who have obviously experienced heartbreak before but truth be told, you won't follow any of it right now.

Broken hearts heal in time.

[Jason in Enid]

Originally Posted by xlogit3k

Like I said, I'm not planning on contacting her at all. Her room mate is really cool and she plans on coming to my apt next weekend to hang out. I am almost positive my ex-girlfriend has some kind of personality disorder.

These two words are synonymous. It's not your job to "fix" people. Move on.

[gtodude]

I agree with the majority of the guys here...I can honestly say that I'm in my 4th year of my 3rd marriage and I am only 36. I have been there done that twice before. College is where boys become men and girls become...well...I'll refrain myself. And I also agree that talking to friends about it will chill you out and us here are no different. We are all friends by association and love of our hobby. So I see no harm in chattin' with us about it.

After my second marriage, I learned to love life and enjoy myself. I didn't go looking for anyone in particular and just enjoyed spending time making ME happy. Then from out of no where, my now wife walked into my life and is the best thing to ever happen to me.

IMHO, True unconditional love will come when you least expect it but heartbreak will certainly come if you go looking for it.

Enjoy your college experience and just go with the flow! Even though right now things don't seem real kosher, college is the real start of your life! Do what you want to do, not what some chick wants you to do for awhile and LIVE LIFE!!

Right now is where 20 years from now, you will say one of two things....Damn I wish I would have or Damn I am so grateful that I had. Make it the the second one.

[Iron Patch]

Let me start by saying you are WAY more rational and level headed than I was at your age, and that will definitely help you get through. Just reading your post brings me back to the drama I had in my early 20s with a girl and it's probably a good part of the reason I drank myself stupid almost every night for a few years. Part of me felt like it was the real deal with her, but you know what, when we would break up for a bit I was depressed as hell... but only until I met another girl a week or two later, then I'd debate what to do. Now looking back I think it's crazy to have serious relationship like that when you're young. It just makes you feel like you're married and you still have lots of time for that. God that was an insane time, and part of me looks back and thinks it was fun, but at the same time it was brutal. So if I can offer you any advice is to keep your head high and stay in control. If she wants to be a %#$%% let her go and get on with your life. If she is doing what you think she's doing then staying with her you're just setting yourself up for a lot of misery... or if you turn out like I did, lots of broken walls and on the heels of a restraining order.

PS: As for the bipolar thing, been there, done that! It was probably several months after seeing my girlfriend for the last time.... and just to give you an idea of how messed up it was I can't even recall if the last memory I have of her is actually the last day I seen her. It's just like one day I left and my addictions were so out of control it was enough to keep her out of my mind and I never seen her again or made an effort to. In a way it was to save both of us. Anyway, so like I said it was a few months later and I had one roommate and we needed another. So one day he tells me he met a girl that needed a place, so I said sure, when can she move in. So that next Saturday she shows up and it was definitely not what I expected! I figured if it was a girl my roommate was talking to I'd have no interest, but that kinda changed when she walked in. But... I knew he liked her so that Saturday night when we went out I bailed on them at the bar and went to another to do my own thing. That was ok, but then a day or two later he was working and just the two of us went out. ah-oh. Long story short my roommate and his friend shouldn't have made that $5.00 bet with me when she moved in. So her and I partied a lot, and man she could drink for someone who weighed 110 pounds. I think all went well for maybe a couple of weeks until she started with a certain attitude towards things that to me just didn't make sense. I kid you not she even said to me at one point that even if she was wrong about something she had no intention about showing she was wrong, or acting like she was wrong, and I was like what the f. So obviously that didn't last and not too long after we all moved out. ...... Several years later I lived very far away but was taking a trip back with a friend who was visiting relatives. I just planned to party all weekend so decided just for the heck of it I'd give her a call. She ended up meeting me for dinner, she ate, I just drank, and during the conversation she said I have something serious to tell you. Jesus a shiver went up my spine and I thought she was going to tell me I had some crazy disease. She made it even worse by not just coming out and saying it, and it was driving me up the wall. I said just say it! Then she told me that she was bipolar. What a relief! LOL I said oh, is that all, well I probably am too so no biggie. (just being happy I will live) Anyway, back at the time I was with her she had left a boyfriend she had for 6 years, and now looking back it might have not been much of his doing. One day he even showed up at our apartment to talk to her, and I think he knew at the time that I was with her. I can't imagine how much anger I would have felt if that were me, and chances are he probably did, but I'm guessing he held it in because he probably knew how things would have ended had he started a fight... especially in my own place. She went on some meds. and i think even got back with that guy, but I have know idea how it ended up.


Well that's it for now from my crazy past. Yeah that !!!! sucks but it matters greatly how you deal with it, and if you act like me it sucks a whole lot more and starts to affect your life in a very negative way. Dude being in your 20s and single rocks!

[Johnny2dogs]

its exactly like rudy said too. and this is not a penalty kick its a blessing

you just dont know it yet