Steeler1
Full Member
First Im sorry to unload this here, but it might help me to get some advice and I dont know where to turn.
My grandaughter (age 2 1/2 years) has spent 1/2 her little life with me. I can not tell you the amount of days/nights she has spent with me and my wife here. She got a beautiful bedroom here, clothes, toys, even pets. I have taken here numorous places. The bond we share can not be described in words, so I will not try. Just know she means the world to me. She loves me as much as I do her.
She is the child of my son and his girlfriend. My son has had a big drug problem for years. He has mistreated Heather (his gf, mother of my grandaughter) for a long time. Never physical abuse, but mental abuse can sometimes be worse. Anyway, this past Friday they had another big fight. Heather evidently felt scared and had enough of my son. She took herself and the grandaughter to a shelter someplace.
I am told it's a no contact shelter. I assume she is hiding out until she gets some kind of custody ruling, and maybe even a PFA (protection from abuse) order against my son. In the meantime, my son has checked hisself into a treatment center and is now promising big changes in his life. He realizes he must make changes to see his daughter.
But I am concerned Heather wont let me see the child like we used to. That little girl is someplace missing me and asking for her Pappy right now. My heart is breaking badly. I am concerned that the mother-father will be having a nasty custody battle and slinging mud back/forth..And I will be left out.
I sit here looking at her pictures going crazy. I am not eating or sleeping properly. I miss my grandaughter badly, and I know she is confused and crying to come here as well.
I am so sorry to vent here, but again, it helps me some to unload. Do grandparents have any rights at all? Or is my future relationship with the child at the mercy of her mother?
My grandaughter (age 2 1/2 years) has spent 1/2 her little life with me. I can not tell you the amount of days/nights she has spent with me and my wife here. She got a beautiful bedroom here, clothes, toys, even pets. I have taken here numorous places. The bond we share can not be described in words, so I will not try. Just know she means the world to me. She loves me as much as I do her.
She is the child of my son and his girlfriend. My son has had a big drug problem for years. He has mistreated Heather (his gf, mother of my grandaughter) for a long time. Never physical abuse, but mental abuse can sometimes be worse. Anyway, this past Friday they had another big fight. Heather evidently felt scared and had enough of my son. She took herself and the grandaughter to a shelter someplace.
I am told it's a no contact shelter. I assume she is hiding out until she gets some kind of custody ruling, and maybe even a PFA (protection from abuse) order against my son. In the meantime, my son has checked hisself into a treatment center and is now promising big changes in his life. He realizes he must make changes to see his daughter.
But I am concerned Heather wont let me see the child like we used to. That little girl is someplace missing me and asking for her Pappy right now. My heart is breaking badly. I am concerned that the mother-father will be having a nasty custody battle and slinging mud back/forth..And I will be left out.
I sit here looking at her pictures going crazy. I am not eating or sleeping properly. I miss my grandaughter badly, and I know she is confused and crying to come here as well.
I am so sorry to vent here, but again, it helps me some to unload. Do grandparents have any rights at all? Or is my future relationship with the child at the mercy of her mother?