We're on your shoulders
Like someone else said, I know what you two are feeling. My dear Son, Brian, died in a car accident, at 21 years of age, in 1981. We are not supposed to outlive our kids, but who said life is fair.
If it helps, those of us who have experienced that kind of loss are out in front, and plowing that ground with you. You are not alone!!!
If you ever need someone to talk to, just PM me and I'll be there.
Love and prayers to you and your family.
Keith & Shirley