Jerry Allen
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Hugo,
Great Penmanship,You have to be tired??
I'm Exhausted from reading it
Great Penmanship,You have to be tired??
I'm Exhausted from reading it
BTW: It's probably not a good idea to accept an invitation inside from a married person of the opposite sex when the spouse is not home, but that's a story for another time.
(and MS)
If I suspect or anticipate a "No" in advance of the visit (ie "You can ask, but that lady never let's anybody on her property. You'll be lucky if she doesn't shoot you on sight.") then I will play downright dirty: I will bring my 10 year old daughter with me if its a woman I am talking to, or bring my hot wife if I am speaking to a man. That is really not fair though, is it? Remember, like it or not, you are selling. Sell it, baby!!!
(and MS)
How do you master gaining permission?
It's not a talent, it's a question.
If you walk up to someone's door with a script and an agenda folks will sniff it out. It's a bore. Think about how you feel when someone knocks without invitation. There's nothing less appealing than being pressured on my own front porch. Trust me, they feel the same way no matter how intimidatable/low-self-confidence they are or how poised and self-confident you are. (If you've outmanouvered a homeowner with your, 'overcoming objections', '12 habits of millionaire salespeople' then you're really there without permission IMO.) Imagine how refreshing it would be to answer a cold knock at the door and be met with a real person from down the street, humbly asking a favor of the King/Queen of the land (instead of a nervous/overconfident face using transparent and newly learned ' skills' that fake that earnest favor request). Sure, sales talent will get you in the door, but do you really want to be in the yard/field of the poor soul you've 'convinced' to be there while reminding them, on a beautiful Saturday morning, how mentally weak they are? Make a friend, the world's full enough of counterfeits.
TBS, I do think it's important to tell the homeowner where I live and if we have acquaintances in common. Remember, you're asking to trespass and dig holes on their property. Be nice. Smile. "Hi, I'm Bobby from down the street. Your neighbors friend. I was wondering, and feel free to run me off, but I was wondering if you'd allow me to metal detect in your yard? If they look confused, expain what your asking. If they say no, accept that no means no and that they have good reason to deny your request and move on. If they say yes, thank them.
If someone's given you permission of their own volition, and upon their own reflection, then you've made a friend and a contact with their neighbors/associates. If you've 'obtained' permission with any pressure whatsoever, then you've just gained access. Nothing more. Everyone feels pressure. We're tuned to it. They know they're being muscled no matter how slick you are and in their hearts they can't wait for you to leave.
No offence to folks who make a living convincing people, but if you're reading this thread you're asking how to get past a 'No Tresspassing' sign and violate the sanctity of someone's private space.....with a shovel.
Don't convince. Ask.
You'll feel better for it.
The goal isn't finding a place to detect, it's finding someone who will give you a place to detect.
Just one man's opinion..
Great advice. Should be a sticky